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Christian • Age 10 • ASD Level 2 • minimally verbal, understands clear instructions

A calm, predictable day where Christian knows what happens now, what happens next, and who is helping.

This site gives the household one shared plan for Christian’s school days and non-school days. It uses short language, visual structure, one lead voice at a time, predictable check-ins, and caregiver handoffs so Christian can build hygiene, feeding, self-care, communication, and independence without being overwhelmed.

1 voiceOnly the lead coach gives directions.

First → ThenShow the next step before asking.

School daysTyler wakes Christian at 8:00; bus comes at 9:30.

Protect dignityNo teasing, shaming, rushing, or crowding.

House rule for all ten people

Christian gets structure, not a crowd. When one person is coaching, everyone else lowers noise, gives space, and avoids side-comments.

Christian’s role

Christian practices the next step with help. He is never responsible for managing adults, guessing expectations, or explaining himself under pressure.

School-day timing + ownership

On school days, the girls are already gone before Christian and Tyler wake at 8:00 AM. Tyler owns wake, bathroom/hygiene, room transition, and bedtime. Tiana is the alternate for bed/bath only.

Tablet visual schedule for Christian

Use this as a simple “show me” page. Christian can tap each card when it is finished. Keep language short: “Check schedule. First ___. Then ___.”

School Day

Tap a card when it is all done.

✅ Tap = done

👤 One helper talks 👀 Show card first ☝️ First ➡️ Then ✅ All done 🧘 Break or help?

Regular helpers by routine block

These are the default owners. The owner leads the step, backup supports if needed, and Meek/Mitch receive exceptions.

Routine block	Regular helper / owner	Backup	QA / escalation
School-day wake + room transition	Tyler 🔒 locked	Tiana only if Tyler is unavailable	Meek for health/sleep concerns; Mitch for house flow
Bathroom, bath, hygiene, dressed	Tyler 🔒 locked bed/bath owner	Tiana alternate only	Meek sets hygiene standard
School-day breakfast + drink	Tyler leads because girls are already gone	Mitch adult support/coverage	Meek approves food plan; concerns go to Meek
School departure / bus at 9:30 AM	Tyler completes room, backpack, shoes, and door readiness	Mitch confirms adult coverage and bus handoff	Meek receives exception update
After-school re-entry around 4:00 PM	Zion regular regulation coach	Eva	Mitch controls noise/crowding; Meek receives concerns
Life skill practice	Tiana regular skill-practice lead when available	Nia; Eva as motivator	Meek chooses weekly priority
Movement, play, community, participation	Zion regular coach	Eva	Meek approves outings; Mitch manages household logistics
Quiet time and calm recovery	Eva regular calm coach	Zion	Mitch reduces house noise
Evening bath, hygiene, room reset, sleep sequence	Tyler 🔒 locked bed/bath/sleep lead	Tiana alternate only for bed/bath; Eva/Zion may support regulation	Meek final bedtime decision-maker

Assignments first: master routines

Use the school-day routine when school is in session. Use the non-school routine for weekends, breaks, summer days, and holidays.

School-day guardrails

Christian and Tyler wake around 8:00 AM. The girls are already gone by then, so school-morning care does not depend on Nia, Tiana, or Eva. Christian’s bus comes at 9:30 AM. He returns around 4:00 PM. Bed, bath, bathroom/hygiene, and sleep tasks are owned by Tyler, with Tiana as the alternate only.

8:00
AM

Wake sequence + bathroom start

Start the day gently, consistently, and without extra talking.

🔒 Owner: Tyler Alternate for bed/bath: Tiana only QA: Meek for health/sleep exceptions

Definition of Done + QA

Owner DoD

Lights, voice, and movement stay calm.
Christian is shown the morning visual schedule.
Bathroom attempt is offered: toilet, wash hands, wash face.
Dirty pull-up/clothes/towels go to the correct place.
Christian is not rushed, teased, or crowded.

QA check

Christian is awake and regulated enough to continue.
Bathroom area is clean after use.
Next step is visible before the next demand.
Any refusal, illness, or sleep issue is reported to Meek/Mitch.

Print card

8:15
AM

Hygiene + dressed for school

Build independence through a predictable body-care checklist.

🔒 Owner: Tyler Alternate: Tiana only Girls are already gone before this block QA: Meek final standard

Definition of Done + QA

Owner DoD

Clean underwear, socks, shirt, pants/shorts, and shoes are on.
Teeth brushed with support as needed.
Deodorant applied if part of current plan.
Hair is brushed or reset to family standard.
Backpack and school items are staged near exit before the 9:30 bus.

QA check

Clothes are weather-appropriate and comfortable.
No hygiene step was skipped due to rushing or lack of helper availability.
Christian had a clear “first/then” cue for any hard step.
Any sensory issue with clothes is logged for Meek.

Skills

8:45
AM

Breakfast + drink

Feeding support without pressure: safe foods, hydration, and calm pacing.

Owner: Tyler school-morning lead Adult support: Mitch Nia/Tiana unavailable before school QA: Meek approves food plan

Definition of Done + QA

Owner DoD

Breakfast is offered from the approved food list.
Drink is offered and visible.
Christian has a clean place to eat with minimal crowding.
No bargaining, shaming, or force-feeding.
Food eaten, refused, or sensory issue is noted if unusual.

QA check

Christian had a real food opportunity before leaving.
Mess is cleaned and dishes are placed correctly.
Lunch/snack/communication item is in backpack if needed before the 9:30 bus.
Concerns are escalated to Meek, not argued at the table.

Cue script

9:10
AM

Transition out the door for 9:30 bus

Reduce last-minute chaos and make the 9:30 bus handoff predictable.

Owner: Tyler door readiness Adult coverage / bus handoff: Mitch QA: Meek receives status

Definition of Done + QA

Owner DoD

Shoes, coat, backpack, and any school items are on/with Christian.
Christian is shown “bus/school next” visually.
Room is safe: path clear, bedding not blocking walkway.
Caregiver says one calm goodbye phrase.

QA check

He left with required items.
Any morning difficulty is handed off to school/adult as appropriate.
No one adds surprise demands during departure.
Meek is notified if he did not eat, sleep, toilet, or dress normally.

Handoff

4:00
PM

Re-entry: snack, bathroom, decompression

After school is a recovery window, not an interrogation window.

Owner: Zion regulation coach Backup: Eva Tyler/Tiana handle bathroom help if needed QA: Mitch monitors volume

Definition of Done + QA

Owner DoD

Christian is welcomed with one calm phrase.
Backpack goes to the same landing zone.
Bathroom attempt and handwashing are offered by Tyler or Tiana if direct bathroom help is needed.
Snack and drink are offered.
Quiet decompression option is available before demands.

QA check

School papers/notes are passed to Meek/Mitch.
No crowding, repeated questioning, or teasing happened.
His body needs were checked before homework, chores, or outings.
Any concerning behavior change is logged.

Calm plan

Evening

Dinner, hygiene, calm play, and bedtime

Close the day with the same order whenever possible.

🔒 Owner: Tyler sleep sequence Bed/bath alternate: Tiana only Eva or Zion may support calm regulation only QA: Meek bedtime decision-maker

Definition of Done + QA

Owner DoD

Dinner offered from approved plan with drink.
Bath/shower/wash-up completed to current standard.
Pajamas and clean underwear/pull-up plan complete.
Teeth brushed.
Room reset enough for safe sleep.
Screen/stimulating activity ends with a visual warning.

QA check

Tyler confirms room, bedding, and sleep items are ready.
Meek is notified of illness, hygiene refusal, injury, or major dysregulation.
No one starts rough play or loud activity after bedtime sequence begins.
Final phrase: “Good night. Safe. See you tomorrow.”

Night log

8:00
AM

Gentle wake + bathroom + dressed

Weekend timing can be softer, but the order stays predictable.

🔒 Tyler locked lead Nia/Tiana support hygiene Alternate for bed/bath: Tiana only

Definition of Done + QA

Owner DoD

Wake cue is calm and consistent.
Bathroom, handwashing, face wash, and dressed routine are offered by Tyler, or Tiana if Tyler is unavailable.
Visual schedule is shown for “home day.”
Room path is safe and laundry is placed correctly.

QA check

Christian is not left in pajamas all day unless planned by Meek.
Bathroom/hygiene were not skipped and were led by Tyler or Tiana only.
The first preferred activity comes after the first care step.

Print card

9:00
AM

Breakfast + morning movement

Food, drink, and body input before screens or errands.

Owner: Nia feeding helper Movement owner: Zion Backup: Tiana or Eva QA: Mitch protects home flow

Definition of Done + QA

Owner DoD

Breakfast and drink are offered from approved list.
Movement option is offered: walk, trampoline, outside, dancing, stretching, stairs with supervision, or heavy-work activity.
Screen is not the first automatic activity unless Meek approves.

QA check

Food/drink status is known.
Movement was safe and supervised.
Any sensory or eating concern is logged.

Skill plan

10:00
AM

Life skill practice block

One small practice target per day; do not overload him.

Owner: Tiana skill-practice lead Backup: Nia Motivator: Eva QA: Meek chooses priority

Definition of Done + QA

Owner DoD

Practice one target: brushing, dressing, plate to sink, backpack, simple sorting, or asking for help. Bathroom/bath practice stays with Tyler or Tiana.
Use visual cue or first/then board.
Stop while he is still successful; do not turn it into a battle.
Celebrate effort immediately.

QA check

Only one skill target was practiced.
Help was faded where possible: show, gesture, model, then assist.
Result is logged: independent, partial help, full help, refused, or not attempted.

Targets

Midday

Lunch + rest/quiet time

Reset his body before the afternoon household gets busy.

Owner: Nia lunch helper Quiet time owner: Eva Backup: Zion QA: Mitch reduces house noise

Definition of Done + QA

Owner DoD

Lunch and drink offered.
Handwashing is offered before or after lunch. Direct bathroom support stays with Tyler or Tiana.
Quiet activity is set up: books, sensory bin, music, tablet with timer, or calm show.
Visual timer is used for the block.

QA check

He had a food/drink opportunity and cleanup happened.
Quiet time was not used as isolation or punishment.
Next activity was shown before transition.

Cues

Afternoon

Community, play, or household participation

Practice being in the family rhythm with a clear start and finish.

Owner: Zion coach Backup: Eva Nia/Tiana skill support if practicing QA: Meek approves outings

Definition of Done + QA

Owner DoD

Activity is named visually or verbally before starting.
Christian has a clear job if participating: carry item, wipe table, sort books, put one item away, choose snack, or walk with coach.
Break option is available.
End of activity is marked: “all done.”

QA check

He was supervised appropriately.
Activity did not become chaotic or unsafe.
Success was praised and logged if it supports school readiness.

School goals

Evening

Dinner, bath, pajamas, room reset, sleep

The bedtime pattern stays stable every night, even after a flexible day.

🔒 Owner: Tyler sleep sequence Bed/bath alternate: Tiana only QA: Meek final decision-maker Mitch protects quiet house

Definition of Done + QA

Owner DoD

Dinner/drink offered.
Bath/shower/wash-up completed by Tyler, or Tiana if Tyler is unavailable.
Pajamas and clean bedtime items complete.
Teeth brushed.
Shared room is safe, calm, and sleep-ready.
Final visual: bathroom → pajamas → teeth → bed.

QA check

Tyler confirms bath, hygiene, and the shared room are ready.
No one disrupts bedtime with loud gaming, rough play, or surprise demands.
Meek is notified of bedtime issues.

Night log

Care team and roles

Christian needs many loving people, but one lead at a time. Roles protect him from confusion and protect adults’ work time.

Meek

Mom + final decision-maker

Sets standards for health, hygiene, school communication, food plan, safety, and escalation. Receives daily exception reports.

Mitch

Uncle + adult household manager

Protects structure, lowers household chaos, confirms adult coverage, escalates medical/school/safety concerns, and does not pass adult accountability to the kids.

Tyler

Older brother + roommate

Locked lead for wake and sleep sequences. Helps the shared room support Christian’s regulation and school readiness.

Nia

Developmental skill coach

Uses childhood-development training to support hygiene, feeding routines, visual directions, and patient step-by-step practice.

Tiana

Developmental skill coach

Partners with Nia for hygiene, self-care, feeding support, and school-readiness routines using simple, consistent prompts.

Zion

Regulation + movement coach

Excellent coach for calm play, movement, transitions, community participation, and helping Christian recover after busy moments.

Eva

Social + independence coach

Excellent coach for play, practice, gentle encouragement, visual schedules, and helping Christian complete small independence wins.

CeCe

Protected work-time adult

Supports the home, but the care structure should allow CeCe to work without constant interruption.

Everyone

Household culture

Use short instructions, reduce noise, keep pathways clear, respect Christian’s body and communication, and report concerns up the adult chain.

Skill builders

These are the daily practice targets that prepare Christian for a less restrictive school environment next year.

Hygiene

Toilet attempt, wash hands, wash face, brush teeth, deodorant if planned, bath/shower routine, clean clothes, dirty clothes to hamper.

Feeding

Come to table, sit for meal, choose from approved foods, drink water, use napkin, plate to sink, communicate “all done” or “help.”

Self-care

Backpack landing zone, shoes on/off, coat, simple room reset, put item away, follow visual schedule, tolerate a timed transition.

Weekly practice rule

Pick one priority target each week. Everyone practices the same target using the same language.

Target	Prompt ladder	What success looks like	Who logs it
Check schedule	Point → “check schedule” → model → gentle assist if appropriate	Christian looks at or touches the next item	Lead coach
Ask for help/break	Show help/break card → wait → honor request	Christian points, gestures, says, or hands card	Lead coach
Bathroom routine	Visual steps by bathroom → one phrase per step	Bathroom attempt + handwashing	Hygiene coach
Meal routine	Food visual → sit → eat/drink → all done	Food opportunity without pressure or chaos	Feeding support coach
Transition	Timer → first/then → all done → next	Moves to next activity with support	Lead coach

Communication rules

Christian is minimally verbal, so the household should communicate in ways he can process.

Use this language

Situation	Say this	Show this
New step	“Christian, check schedule.”	Point to visual schedule
Hard task	“First bathroom. Then breakfast.”	First/Then card
Finished	“All done.”	All Done card/bin
Choice	“Apple or yogurt?”	Two items or two pictures
Distress	“Break or help?”	Break/help card
Transition	“Two minutes, then shoes.”	Timer + shoes picture

When he is dysregulated

Do not add pressure

No lectures, threats, teasing, crowding, repeated questions, or surprise demands.

Lower voices and reduce audience.
One lead person only.
Offer “break or help?” with the visual card.
Check body needs: hungry, thirsty, bathroom, tired, sick, hot/cold, pain, sensory overload.
After recovery, return to the schedule with one easy win.
Escalate to Meek/Mitch for injury, illness, elopement risk, aggression, self-injury, or anything unusual.

Caregiver handoffs and daily log

Handoffs keep Christian safe and stop important information from disappearing between adults and coaches.

30-second handoff script

Body: eaten, drank, bathroom, sleep, pain/illness?
Regulation: calm, tired, upset, sensory-seeking, avoidant?
Schedule: what just ended and what is next?
Communication: any words, gestures, cards, refusal, or new behavior?
Escalation: does Meek or Mitch need to know now?

Daily log fields

Sleep quality / wake difficulty
Breakfast / lunch / dinner status
Bathroom and hygiene completion
School or community transition notes
Skill practice target and level of help
Meltdown/dysregulation trigger and recovery support
Something Christian enjoyed today

School transition plan

Moving from a restrictive school setting to a regular school next year means the home routine should practice school-day independence gently and consistently.

Readiness goals for the next 90 days

Goal	Home practice	Evidence to collect
Follow a visual schedule	Morning, after-school, and bedtime boards	How often he checks schedule with less prompting
Use help/break communication	Offer cards before frustration peaks	Gestures, card use, words, or other signals
Bathroom/hygiene independence	Same checklist in bathroom each day	Steps done independently or with help
Meal routine	Predictable seat, approved foods, no pressure	Food/drink attempts and sensory concerns
Transition tolerance	Timer + first/then + all done	Transitions completed, hard times, helpful supports
Backpack routine	Landing zone after school, pack before school	Items brought home and returned

Questions for the school/IEP team

What visual schedule format will school use?
What AAC, PECS, card, or communication system should home mirror?
What toileting/hygiene support is in the plan?
What sensory supports are allowed?
How will transitions, lunch, specials, recess, and bus/car line be supported?
Who receives the home-to-school communication note?

Printable visual cards

Start simple. Use the same cards in the same places until Christian trusts the routine.

FIRST

🚽

Bathroom

THEN

🍽️

Breakfast

FIRST

🪥

Brush teeth

THEN

🎒

Backpack

FIRST

👟

Shoes

THEN

🏫

School

FIRST

🛁

Bath

THEN

🛏️

Bed

Blank First → Then board

FIRST

Write or place picture here

THEN

Write or place picture here

Cut out or laminate these cards. Place bathroom steps by the bathroom, backpack steps by the exit, and sleep steps in the bedroom.

Implementation notes

Start this week

Print the school-day visual schedule and bedroom sleep sequence.
Put a bathroom checklist by the bathroom Christian uses most.
Choose one skill target for the week.
Use the same cue words for seven days before changing the system.

Do not do everything at once

Do not add too many new demands in one day.
Do not let ten people coach at the same time.
Do not use visuals as threats; visuals are a promise of what comes next.
Do not ignore health, toileting, sleep, or feeding concerns. Escalate them.

This household plan supports daily routine and communication. It does not replace Christian’s IEP, pediatrician, occupational therapist, speech-language pathologist, behavioral team, or school team.